Stop Saying “I’m Just Sayin'”

Remember the phrase that our parents, teachers, and anybody else with 20 years’ more wisdom than us used to tell us when we were younger? “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

Image Credit: Healthland

Image Credit: Healthland

I’ve heard a lot of people recently say something negative or derogatory either to someone, or even worse, about someone. Then, they wrap it all up with this simple little phrase: “I’m just saying’”.

They use that phrase like a hall pass in high school – to do something they probably shouldn’t have done under the guise of actually having permission to do it.

But, here’s the deal.

That little phrase is not a license to speak your mind. If you feel like you need a “hall pass” to say something, then you should probably keep it to yourself.

We should never shy away from speaking the truth – when it’s the right place and the right time. But, we should always communicate the truth in love and compassion.

Choose your words carefully. You can’t afford not to.

Question: do you ever find yourself using a “hall pass” sometimes to say something you probably shouldn’t be saying?

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A Mario Kart Perspective: Three Lessons About Being Successful

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Image Credit: Nintendo

Over the Christmas holidays, as I was playing Mario Kart on the Wii (and struggling to finish a single race better than 10th place), it occurred to me that there are some similarities between Mario Kart and life. Now, I will admit that the thought of comparing Mario Kart to life may seem a little absurd at first, but stick with me – I think you’ll agree that we can learn some lessons from Nintendo’s legendary racing game.

One quick note – I play Mario Kart about once every three months. So, if you were secretly hoping to challenge me to a friendly Mario v. Luigi race, I hate to disappoint you, but I’m afraid I wouldn’t be much competition.

Here are three lessons that we can learn from Mario Kart about being successful.

Success requires more than talent. 

Every character and car combination in Mario Kart favors a different aspect of racing (e.g. acceleration, speed, handling, etc.). However, simply depending upon the specific racing abilities (talent) of your character/car combo is not enough to win. You have to take advantage of the items that are offered throughout the track to supplement your character’s awesome racing skills.

Don’t be fooled into thinking that talent alone will advance your career, grow your revenues, or make you a better parent. It won’t. Talent is a great platform to build on. But, it is simply that – a platform. You must build on it. You must work hard to fine tune your skills to fulfill your potential. Human resources consultant Robert Half is credited with saying, “Hard work without talent is a shame, but talent without hard work is a tragedy.” Don’t sacrifice your talent on the altar of apathy.

Success requires priorities. 

In Mario Kart, you have to know when to use each item to make the most of it. Using an item at the wrong time (or using it at all) may in fact end up working against you. For example, using the gold star around a bend that doesn’t have bumpers on it might just send you spiraling into the ever-present black pit below. (This has never happened to me before.)

Be selective with the opportunities that you take advantage of. Identify what will help you reach your goal and focus on that alone. Don’t say “yes” to everything that comes your way. “No” is a very powerful word – use it often. Sometimes it’s not that the opportunity is necessarily a “bad” opportunity – it may just be that the timing is not right for you. Concentrate your efforts; don’t dilute them. A Chinese proverb warns, “He who chases two rabbits will catch neither.”

Personal mission statements and life plans are strategic tools that can help you focus on your goals with laser beam intensity. You have to know where you’re going before you can set your priorities straight to help you get there. French Renaissance author Michel de Montaigne hit the nail on the head: “No wind favors him who has no destined port.”

Success requires persistence.

It seems that Mario Kart is all about persistence – the final rankings always seem to be determined in the last five seconds of a game. (Anybody with me on that one?) Giving up halfway through the race ensures only one thing –you will finish last.

Willpower is like a muscle – exercise it and it will become stronger. You can cultivate the will to never quit trying. Some of the greatest inventors of history were the ones who persevered despite the fact that it seemed that the cards were heavily stacked against them. Thomas Edison tried more than 10,000 different types of material before he discovered that tungsten was the perfect filament for his incandescent light bulb. It took James Dyson 5,127 protoypes over a 15-year period to develop the technology for the world’s first bagless vacuum cleaner. Consider how different the history of these every-day items might be if Edison quit after 9,000 attempts or if Dyson threw in the towel after 5,000 prototypes.

The pathway to success is a daily journey of overcoming obstacles. Don’t let the obstacles define you. Let your response to the obstacles define you. (Click here to tweet that.)

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